The only thing that could probably be more accurate than the government’s tax computations is a woman’s intuition. This “skill”, honed by hundreds of years of women listening and catering more to their senses, has been a very accurate gauge of knowing when something’s wrong or amiss.
While it is true that the women intuition still lacks backing from the science community, more and more studies on social science and human behaviors are pointing to it being more than just a myth or an urban legend.
With that in mind, should you listen to and act on these intuitions? Especially if the source of it is suspicions on your man or partner in life having an affair? As much as we would like to believe that our intuitions are accurate, there is always that fear at the back of our minds telling us that all this could just be borne out of our paranoia.
My answer? You can never be too cautious of what you feel. Right or wrong, it’s upon you to make the decision to come up with the will to ensure your own emotional security and peace of mind. That said, you shouldn’t just go jumping into accusations based on gut feel alone. Try to be more objective, observant, and most importantly, understanding.
Clear your mind of accusations, listen to your intuition, and when you feel you’re in your most objective state, try to look for these tell tale signs that your husband or boyfriend is indeed cheating:
1. Takes a shower or a quick wash as soon as he gets home. (Why: To wash off scents from his other woman.)New found zeal on trying out new sexual positions and fantasies. (Why: Playing with fire ignites an inner flame to be adventurous.)
2. Unusual frequency of all-nighters, weekend trips, or lateness in coming home all blamed to work. (Why: Having an affair requires time off his usual schedule, hence the sudden change in his working hours.)
3. Sudden interest in personal hygiene and in improving appearance. (Why: Remember how often he brushes his teeth, goes to gym, and shave when you were just dating? It’s because he’s trying to impress you. He’s undergoing the same phase now, albeit with another woman.)
4. Gets over-protective of his personal belongings such as cell phones, computers, and organizers. (Why: These are modern means of cheating, the channels he use to do his “deeds”, hence his overzealous desire to keep them from you.)
5. Once you notice a pattern on any of the five aforementioned pointers, then congratulations you’re another figure in the growing list of data that backs up the existence of the “women’s intuition” phenomenon.
Kidding aside, it’s time you take a more serious approach in talking and asking your husband or boyfriend what’s the real deal. If he sticks to his denials, then you should consider abandoning the relationship. Remember, this is not you being paranoid anymore. This is you learning how to stand up for yourself and making use of the tools that make us equal, if not better, than the other sex.
By: Karren Anne Pastorizo
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